Jerry and I have been married for 37 years this coming Wednesday, May 21st. There are days it seems we have always been together and also times we wonder where the time went.
Our kids are all grown and we have been empty-nesters for seven years now. Because we maintained our relationship, it has been a good transition for us.
During the child-rearing years, it is so easy to focus on the kids and not take time out as a couple. We went through that phase too. We learned the hard way we had to stay connected and nurture each other every day. Waiting till the kids were grown was not an option.
Because we cultivated our relationship, I am now more in love with Jerry than ever before. Jerry is easy to love though. Let me brag on him a little.
He is an encourager. Jerry supports whatever I do – and believe me, I’ve done many things – some of which I didn’t stick with.
Jerry is a great father to our three sons. While they were growing up, he was always there to encourage them to go for their dreams. The memory of him praying on his knees by their bedsides in the middle of the night is etched in my mind. They are all successful adults today, and I believe Jerry’s influence made a huge difference.
Jerry has a generous heart. He doesn’t consider himself but gives whenever God prompts him to give – money or time. He also gives to me. He encourages me to spend money on myself. On the flipside, I don’t take advantage of his bigheartedness.
Jerry spoils me on the weekends, often cooking for me or taking me out. He makes sure I have fresh flowers on the table all the time.
Jerry is a hard worker. Everywhere he has ever worked, he treats like his own business by giving 100%. I know he gets tired. His schedule is a tough one, but he just keeps on going day in and day out to provide for us, not complaining about how weary I know he really is.
Jerry is a great listener. He recognizes my need to connect with conversation. I’m sure after talking all day, it would be easier to veg in front of the television but he makes time to talk with me instead. Yes, we do watch some television but it’s not the priority.
Despite Jerry’s grueling work schedule, he still manages to spend time in the presence of the Lord, even though he has to get up at 4:00 am to do so. He is a good example to me. If he can get up that early, I have no excuse for missing my time alone with God. He covers our home with prayer and that makes me feel secure.
He has men he is accountable to – even though the only time they can get together is by telephone at 5:30 am weekly. He also has invested in many young men throughout the years who are now great husbands, fathers and spiritual leaders themselves.
Jerry Gray is the love of my life, and I am so grateful to God for blessing me with him.
The Bible says in Proverbs 27:17, “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” I hope the things I shared about Jerry will challenge you to become a sharper person.