As marriage partners, Jerry and I have learned that the key to an intimate marriage is to have Christ at the very center. Matthew 18:19-20 says “Again, I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything you ask for, it will be done for you by my Father in heaven. For where two or three come together in my name, there am I with them.”
As believers, we have power as couples. It’s no wonder Satan tries so hard to break up marriages and cause discord. 1 Peter 3 tells us our prayers can even be hindered if we don’t treat each other in the right way.
We believe God wants us to have a marriage beyond our wildest dreams, but to do so, we must be willing to invest in it. One way we do this is by having established boundaries and accountability.
For a while, Jerry and I just had spoken boundaries, but then we realized how much better it is to have them in writing. If they are written, they seem more binding. (See last week's blog post for our list.)
Once we wrote them down, we added a home section that included how long we will stay on the internet and things like listening to music at dinner instead of watching tv. The television, internet and cell phone are great tools that benefit us in a lot of ways; however, we are seeking balance in our lives. Too much technology leaves too little time for us to communicate as a couple.
As part of our boundaries involving others, we don’t do outings, long personal conversations or carpooling with others alone. Even though Jerry and I do trust each other, why should we even put ourselves in vulnerable places?
One of our boundaries is “No uncovering of spouse to others.” To us this means we will watch what we say to our friends and family about each other. We will not reveal intimate things that might embarrass nor will we husband or wife bash.
We also addressed flirting only with each other. Life can become too routine and serious, and flirting with each other is one way to lighten it up!
Until next time, just have a little fun together.