Monday, April 19, 2010

Rate Your Marriage

Here's a great  little quiz to rate your marriage from the book, Hot Chocolate for Couples by Cindy Sigler Dagnan (Harvest House Publishers).  The book is a good read if you are interested in practical ways to sweeten your love life.

from the book “Hot Chocolate for Couples”
by Cindy Sigler Dagnan
Harvest House Publishers

During the past month have you or your spouse ....
____ kissed passionately without making love?
____ gone on a date alone? (Double dates or church activities don’t count.)
____ held hands?
____ talked at length about anything other than the kids, money, schedules, household needs or conflicts?
____ done something unexpected, special, or romantic for each other?
____ prayed together other than at mealtimes?

During the last six months have you and your spouse...·
____ gone for a long walk together?
____ laughed until your sides hurt?
____ taken inventory and discussed your “state of the marriage union”?
____ written a love note or sent a card to each other?
____ varied your love making in some way—position, technique, location?

In the last year have you and your spouse...
____ gone away for an overnight retreat without the kids?
____ shared a spiritual growth experience?
____ attended a seminar or read a book to improve your marriage?
____ shared hopes, goals, fears, and dreams about your marriage and family for the next year, five years, ten years?
____ verbally renewed your commitment to love and cherish each other and stick it out until you are parted by death?


If you responded...
· YES to 12 or more questions, you still feel emotionally connected and in love—crank it up a notch to feel even closer.

· YES to between 5 and 11 questions, you may have begun settling for an “average” marriage. Implement some good changes.

· YES to fewer than 5 questions, your marriage is in serious drift mode and headed for a stall. Start practicing the things on this list. If you are struggling with very serious issues, consider going to a dedicated Christian counselor for a season.

*Reprinted with permission from Cindy Dagnan

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